Physical contact is so important to humans that in a study blindfolded participants can in most cases, recognize various emotions based on touch alone. Small differences in, for example, the duration and intensity of the contact can convey subtle differences, which helps in distinguishing between feelings that are close to each other. [1]
At creation, God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone.” Genesis 2:18. We are created as social beings. Contact with other people is very important for our well-being. Not only to communicate verbally or digitally, but also through appropriate physical contact.
Touches
From the very beginning of our lives to our last moments in this world, physical contact plays an important role in our development and physical and mental health.
Nurturing, cuddling and holding your baby is essential for bonding, building a trusting relationship with you as a parent and for calming the baby, as well as for growth and development.
At any age, people produce oxytocin when they are in positive contact with each other. Oxytocin is a neurotransmissor, which can also function as a hormone. It calms stress and helps reduce anxiety. It also lowers aggression and is important in relationships and attachment. It is therefore also called the 'cuddle hormone'.
Touch also lowers heart rate and blood pressure, as well as cortisol, the hormone released in our body in response to stress.
Research also shows that physical contact has an influence on your immune system. People who are hugged more often, by someone they trust are less likely to become infected after exposure to a cold virus. If they do get sick, they have less severe symptoms compared to people who are less hugged.
Skin hunger
Skin-to-skin contact is therefore vital for our well-being. It makes us physically and mentally quiet and calm. It also has a positive effect on our immune system.
Current developments and the digitization of society make that many people have less physical contact with others. This is especially true for those who live alone.
A deep desire for a loving touch by another person is called skin hunger. It is not (always) about intimate romantic contact. Shaking hands, a high five, a pat on the back or a hug when you meet a family member or friend is also important physical contact. This kind of touch helps with skin hunger.
Research shows that elderly people who live alone were less likely to see others in person or to receive or provide help.[2]
The Bible also speaks of this. In Isaiah we read about the effect of social contact and charity on our health.
“Is it not to deal thy bread to the hungry, and that thou bring the poor that are cast out to thy house? when thou seest the naked, that thou cover him; and that thou hide not thyself from thine own flesh?
Then shall thy light break forth as the morning, and thine health shall spring forth speedily.”
Isaiah 58:7-8a.
What we contribute to the well-being of others responds to our own health. Our own well-being is closely linked to that of our fellow human beings.
God is always near
Maybe you are single, lonely or you experience skin hunger and you long for closeness. It can be very difficult to get enough good contacts. But know this:
“Whatever may be our situation, we have a Guide to direct our way; whatever our perplexities, we have a sure Counselor; whatever our sorrow, bereavement, or loneliness, we have a sympathizing Friend.” COL 173.1.
God is always near. This the Bible tells us in various texts.
“The Lord is at hand. … The LORD is nigh unto all them that call upon him, … Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you.” Philippians 4:5, Psalm 145:18, James 4:8.
You can tell Him all your worries, lay them down with Him. Jesus himself invites you to do this.
“Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you. … Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.” 1 Peter 5:7, Matthew 11:28.
And there are beautiful promises attached to it.
“He will be with thee, he will not fail thee, neither forsake thee: fear not, neither be dismayed. … and the God of love and peace shall be with you.” Deuteronomy 31:8, 2 Corinthians 13:11.
Sources
[1] https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/33196815/
[2] https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/touching_research#
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